Fall has to be my favorite time of year. The two biggest of many reasons is that my birthday is in the fall, as is our dating (and soon to be wedding!) anniversary. So it’s no secret that I freaking love Fall. I might hate pumpkin spice everything, but I love everything else about it. Cooler weather, my birthday, our anniversary, delicious fall drinks, and no mosquitoes….it’s a literal dream!
This year (tomorrow actually!) marks 9 WHOLE YEARS of being together. And if that doesn’t make me feel old, I honestly don’t know what will. We’ll be getting married next year right on our 10 year anniversary, which not only makes it super easy for time keeping purposes, but also just makes you want to cry over how stinking cute it is. But telling people that we’ve been together as long as we have always seems to cause the reaction of “holy cow that’s a long-ass time!” or “that’s longer than my wife/husband and I have been together!” or, my personal favorite, “HOW?!?”.
Keeping The Love Alive
I won’t lie and say it’s been all rainbows, butterflies and unicorn poop, but it also hasn’t been ridiculously hard either. Don’t get me wrong – we’ve certainly had our fair share of arguments and hard times. But if there’s one thing I love the most about being high school sweethearts, it’s that we know we’ll always get through everything life throws at us. But there’s one thing people seem to forget to do after being together for so long – you have to keep dating one another!
After 9 whole years together, you get pretty used to each another. We’re no longer infatuated with each other like we used to be in high school. We don’t have to impress one another all the time. We don’t need to be around each other 24/7. We get in our daily routines, and because we know the other person is going to be there if we need them, we don’t necessarily prioritize making the time for them each day. And that’s fine! But at some point, you’ll both feel ignored and unhappy as hell. So you have to make an actual effort to slip them some compliments, do nice things for each other, make romantic gestures, etc. Don’t take one another for granted – make time for one another, make each other laugh!
I’ll sometimes leave cute notes around the house, and he’ll surprise me with food (it’s the way to my heart, what can I say!). He constantly finds ways to make me laugh or cheer me up if I’m feeling down. And with our crazy schedule and work hours (I have day work hours, while he’s back on restaurant time) I started “scheduling” weekly dates. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just a meal/activity together without distractions (phone, email, etc.) at least once a week. Most of the time we end up spending the day grocery shopping and cooking dinner afterward like the hopelessly boring adults we are. And I FINALLY managed to get Ethan on the Game of Thrones bandwagon, so we have that to watch together after dinner now. But doing those little things that mean “I love you” really makes a huge difference!
And now that it’s Fall, the weather will (hopefully) cool down again, which means we can actually venture outside without wanting to die. And that means fall dates! So if you’re also looking for some fun fall date ideas, look no further!
8 Fall Date Ideas
Obvious choice, I know, but there’s just something I seriously love about picnics. Maybe it’s because it’s so stinking hot down here 80% of the year that I just love anything I can do outdoors, especially if it is combined with my love of food. Nice weather + food is a combination I can definitely get behind. We already love our easy wine and cheese dinner nights, so we can just put a fun twist on it and eat it outdoors!
Again, seeing that it’s hot and humid as heck down here, when the weather gets nice we take advantage. Thankfully Tunica Falls isn’t crazy far from Baton Rouge, which means we have a fun hiking trail we can take the dogs to. Now that the weather should be cooling down, we’ll definitely be making a trip out soon!
Make a Pillow/Blanket Fort and Watch Your Favorite Movie
We actually did this not too long ago, and it certainly made us laugh and smile as we got everything all set up. Unfortunately for us, my cat thought that the top of our fort was a magical new surface, and as she jumped on it, it not only knocked over our TV (shattering the screen), but also a nice bottle of red wine all over our light carpet. They say patience is a virtue, but all I have to say is thank goodness for OxyClean and having a shampooing vacuum.
Cat antics aside, making a little fort was a blast. It made us both feel like kids again, and was something that is really easy that you can do just to make you laugh and smile. Set up your fort, grab some blankets and all of your favorite snacks (and a bottle of wine), put on a movie and have a fun evening!
Carve a Pumpkin and Roast the Seeds (or just bake a pie!)
Halloween specific sure, but fun all the same! Ethan and I absolutely love roasted pumpkin seeds, and we look forward to this time of year so we can make them again. We go to a wholesale club like Sam’s or Costco and each get a giant pumpkin, try our best to not murder it as we’re carving, and roast all the seeds after. We put them in air-tight containers and eat off of them for weeks!
If you’re not into eating roasted pumpkin seeds or carving pumpkins, but really like pumpkin pie (perfect for Thanksgiving), roast the pumpkin instead and make your own puree to use in your next pie!
Visit a Farmer’s Market
Baton Rouge might not have an actual farmer’s market open every single day, but we do have one on Thursday mornings and another on Saturday mornings, and a “market” with specialty shops open during the week. And I personally love fall produce, which means we’ll be heading to one of these markets very soon! Even if you don’t want to go for seasonal produce, most markets have a place to grab a good cup of coffee and a pastry. Both of which are perfect to have when walking around your local market early in the morning.
Start a Mini Bonfire and Roast S’mores
I don’t know about you, but my backyard isn’t suited for a giant bonfire. But we do have a tiny grill outside, which is perfect for containing a small fire to roast marshmallows. If you don’t have a small grill (or are a little opposed to starting a fire in your house) you can set your oven on broil and place your marshmallows, on top of the chocolate and graham crackers of course, on a cookie sheet and pop them in for a few minutes.
Spend the Weekend Away in a Cabin
While it might not be getting cool enough for the leaves to change colors down here for a while, once it does the best place to see it is in the woods. We all need a weekend away every now and then, so why not spend it in a way that’s perfect for fall too?
Go To a Football Game
Fall means football and if you’re a fan, be sure to head out to a local game! Baton Rouge is home to LSU, and Ethan and I are both alum. Because we were both in band, Ethan and I went to just about every game while we were students but haven’t really been to one since we graduated. We’ll be heading to LSU’s homecoming game this weekend, and while the game itself might be pretty boring, we’re looking forward to tailgating!
Do you have any fall date ideas? How do you and your S/O keep the love alive?
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