This is going to be quite different from the posts I normally write, so bear with me here. I’m going to try my best to not go off on a ranting train! Before I get too much into this, let me explain what millennials are just in case you’ve been living under a rock.
Millennials (or Gen Y) are people that were born from 1980 to 2000, give or take a few years in either direction. So really anyone between the ages of 16 – 40. Which is an insanely large age range if you ask me. How is that large of an age range supposed to be categorized as being the same? A 16 year old is not going through the same stuff as a 40 year old and will have opinions and behaviors to reflect that. Just saying.
Before us is Gen X – so basically the parents of those millennials born closer to the 2000s. And before them the even more famous Baby Boomers. Both of which apparently hate us. Millennials get a lot of crap for being any or all of the following:
- being “snowflakes” (because we are generally more liberal that previous generations)
- obsessed with selfies, social media, and technology
and the list goes on…
And normally I don’t care. Why? Because it’s been like this forever. Future generations don’t like the new ones coming into the world, the younger ones don’t like them back and don’t understand why they are being popped on all the time by the people that raised them, etc. It’s a never-ending cycle of older generations thinking that because they are older and more “wise”, they know how to run everything and should be allowed to forever. Which is how it’s always been and will forever be like.
But it’s stupid stuff like this that gets me fuming:
Avo-freaking-cado toast?! FINALLY! THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION OF WHY I’M BROKE AND NOT ALREADY A MILLIONAIRE!!! This. This is the reason why I’m broke. It has nothing to do with the job market and economy, or the fact that our generation is graduating college with the highest amount of student debt ever, or that the baby boomers won’t freaking retire and open up positions in the workforce. Nope. It’s because of our love for avocado toast. Makes total sense.
Both of these videos went viral, so you’ve probably seen them before. Both try and explain the millennial generation and all of it’s problems.
Ignoring the fact that she’s clearly on the older side of the millennial generation (not to say that she’s old!) and also from Texas – which we all know is generally more conservative – according to her, the issues with our generation boil down to the following:
- We curse more? (give me a source for that please)
- We listen to music older people don’t like
- I’m sorry but it’s been like this for generations.
- We don’t have manners
- Just because she was raised to have manners doesn’t mean that it’s characteristic of the rest of the generation
- We’re more liberal (as a whole) than previous generations
- Again, she’s from TX, so probably leans more to the conservative side anyway and is biased
Let me start off the with the second video by saying that I actually really like it and agree with most of what he is saying. In the second video, apparently all millennials wanted in the workplace was bean bags and free food and still, we’re not happy. Let me throw this out there – did it ever occur to anyone that the bean bags were not a request from millennials, but actually an effort by older generations to attract younger, more tech-savy individuals to work for them by seeming “cool”. Sound familiar?
Because I don’t know about you, but literally the only place I’ve heard of having stuff like that in their offices were Google, Microsoft, Facebook, etc. Basically those big tech companies looking to bring in fresh new people with big ideas. I guarantee you won’t find stuff like that in a forensic science center, marketing firm, or any other place of business.
Basically they wanted to seem like a fun place to more – more fun than anyone else – to appeal to younger people. We don’t ultimately want cool stuff – we just want to love where we work and what we do. We want to have a fulfilling job in a supportive and friendly work environment. Not bean bag chairs and free food (though both of those things are pretty awesome tbh).
Now on to the “failed parenting techniques” – it’s pretty self-explanatory. We were raised this way. If you’re angry that we don’t say please/thank you/yes ma’am/no ma’am, then that is their parent’s fault. It’s easy to say that after the fact of course, because sometimes you don’t know how a technique is going to affect your child until much later. But even then, you can’t be mad when that technique failed. It is not our fault if your parenting technique of leaving us to do whatever we want, giving us participation trophies, and harassing teachers into putting us into honors classes backfires. It. Is. Not. Our. Fault.
Of course we’re going to have horrible self-esteem when we were taught all our lives that we can do/have/be whatever we want and when we leave college magically that all changed when we couldn’t get a job. We got hit with the real world and became depressed. So we put on a fake smile, filtered the heck out of our selfies, and put on our happy mask. We obsess over likes, we curse, we play our music loud, we’re constantly on social media…all to drown out our stress and worry about of lives and look like we’re not miserable.
We know that we are miserable and we know everyone else around us probably is to. So we use our selfies as a way to distract ourselves and make others think we have our lives together. But newsflash – we don’t. None of us do, at least not 100%. None of us is perfect and it is important to remember that when we’re feeling a little jealous over someone’s perfect little Instagram life.
In summary, millennials aren’t what the media makes us out to be. Yes, we have lazy people, entitled people, and rude people in our ranks. Just like every other generation. And while we might have the excuse of being “born this way”, it’s not a good excuse for everything. Most of us are adults now. That means we are responsible for taking charge of our lives. It’s no longer all on our parents. It’s on us too. If we’re not happy, we need to change something to get that way. Hustle like hell. Work to get where you want to be. Nothing is going to be handed to you. Take charge of your own life.
And while I could rant on and on about this, I’ll save it. But it’s important for us to realize, regardless of our generation, there needs to be some dialogue and understanding about what’s going on. And there needs to be some understanding that we are ultimately responsible for our own life and unhappiness/happiness. So get help/advice if you need it, work hard, and make those changes as necessary to get where you want to be.
“The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.” – Jawaharlal Nehru
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